Wednesday, April 4, 2012

Untitled Hymn (Come to Jesus) by Chris Rice

I am making this my life song, and I want to dedicate this to my friend, Emil.  Jesus is ever present in every situation in our lives.  He sees and he understands.  I may not be able to see you in this life, but I am sure we will see each other in our Father's arms, my brother.

Untitled Hymn (Come To Jesus)

Weak and wounded sinner
Lost and left to die
O, raise your head, for love is passing by
Come to Jesus
Come to Jesus
Come to Jesus and live!

Now your burden's lifted
And carried far away
And precious blood has washed away the stain, so
Sing to Jesus
Sing to Jesus
Sing to Jesus and live!

And like a newborn baby
Don't be afraid to crawl
And remember when you walk
Sometimes we
Fall on Jesus
Fall on Jesus
Fall on Jesus and live!

Sometimes the way is lonely
And steep and filled with pain
So if your sky is dark and pours the rain, then
Cry to Jesus
Cry to Jesus
Cry to Jesus and live!

O, and when the love spills over
And music fills the night
And when you can't contain your joy inside, then
Dance for Jesus
Dance for Jesus
Dance for Jesus and live!

And with your final heartbeat
Kiss the world goodbye
Then go in peace, and laugh on Glory's side, and
Fly to Jesus
Fly to Jesus
Fly to Jesus and live!

Monday, March 26, 2012

Father's Love Letter

My Child,

You may not know me,
but I know everything about you.
Psalm 139:1

I know when you sit down and when you rise up.
Psalm 139:2

I am familiar with all your ways.
Psalm 139:3

Even the very hairs on your head are numbered.
Matthew 10:29-31

For you were made in my image.
Genesis 1:27

In me you live and move and have your being.
Acts 17:28

For you are my offspring.
Acts 17:28

I knew you even before you were conceived.
Jeremiah 1:4-5

I chose you when I planned creation.
Ephesians 1:11-12

You were not a mistake,
for all your days are written in my book.
Psalm 139:15-16

I determined the exact time of your birth
and where you would live.
Acts 17:26

You are fearfully and wonderfully made.
Psalm 139:14

I knit you together in your mother's womb.
Psalm 139:13

And brought you forth on the day you were born.
Psalm 71:6

I have been misrepresented
by those who don't know me.
John 8:41-44

I am not distant and angry,
but am the complete expression of love.
1 John 4:16

And it is my desire to lavish my love on you.
1 John 3:1

Simply because you are my child
and I am your Father.
1 John 3:1

I offer you more than your earthly father ever could.
Matthew 7:11

For I am the perfect father.
Matthew 5:48

Every good gift that you receive comes from my hand.
James 1:17

For I am your provider and I meet all your needs.
Matthew 6:31-33

My plan for your future has always been filled with hope.
Jeremiah 29:11

Because I love you with an everlasting love.
Jeremiah 31:3

My thoughts toward you are countless
as the sand on the seashore.
Psalms 139:17-18

And I rejoice over you with singing.
Zephaniah 3:17

I will never stop doing good to you.
Jeremiah 32:40

For you are my treasured possession.
Exodus 19:5

I desire to establish you
with all my heart and all my soul.
Jeremiah 32:41

And I want to show you great and marvelous things.
Jeremiah 33:3

If you seek me with all your heart,
you will find me.
Deuteronomy 4:29

Delight in me and I will give you
the desires of your heart.
Psalm 37:4

For it is I who gave you those desires.
Philippians 2:13

I am able to do more for you
than you could possibly imagine.
Ephesians 3:20

For I am your greatest encourager.
2 Thessalonians 2:16-17

I am also the Father who comforts you
in all your troubles.
2 Corinthians 1:3-4

When you are brokenhearted,
I am close to you.
Psalm 34:18

As a shepherd carries a lamb,
I have carried you close to my heart.
Isaiah 40:11

One day I will wipe away
every tear from your eyes.
Revelation 21:3-4

And I'll take away all the pain
you have suffered on this earth.
Revelation 21:3-4

I am your Father, and I love you
even as I love my son, Jesus.
John 17:23

For in Jesus, my love for you is revealed.
John 17:26

He is the exact representation of my being.
Hebrews 1:3

He came to demonstrate that I am for you,
not against you.
Romans 8:31

And to tell you that I am not counting your sins.
2 Corinthians 5:18-19

Jesus died so that you and I could be reconciled.
2 Corinthians 5:18-19

His death was the ultimate expression
of my love for you.
1 John 4:10

I gave up everything I loved
that I might gain your love.
Romans 8:31-32

If you receive the gift of my son Jesus,
you receive me.
1 John 2:23

And nothing will ever separate you
from my love again.
Romans 8:38-39

Come home and I'll throw the biggest party
heaven has ever seen.
Luke 15:7

I have always been Father,
and will always be Father.
Ephesians 3:14-15

My question is…
Will you be my child?
John 1:12-13
I am waiting for you.
Luke 15:11-32

Love, Your Dad
Almighty God

Father's Love Letter used by permission Father Heart Communications Copyright 1999-2011

Saturday, March 24, 2012

Monday, March 19, 2012

Leaving The City Of Regrets (by Larry Harp)

I had not really planned on taking a trip this time of year, and yet I found myself packing rather hurriedly. This trip was going to be unpleasant and I knew in advance that no real good would come of it. I'm talking about my annual "Guilt Trip."

I got tickets to fly there on Wish I Had airlines. It was an extremely short flight. I got my baggage, which I could not check. I chose to carry it myself all the way. It was weighted down with a thousand memories of what might have been. No one greeted me as I entered the terminal to the Regret City International Airport. I say international because people from all over the world come to this dismal town.

As I checked into the Last Resort Hotel, I noticed that they would be hosting the year's most important event, the Annual Pity Party. I wasn't going to miss that great social occasion. Many of the towns leading citizens would be there.

First, there would be the Done family, you know, Should Have, Would Have and Could Have. Then came the I Had family. You probably know ol' Wish and his clan. Of course, the Opportunities would be present, Missed and Lost. The biggest family would be the Yesterday's. There are far too many of them to count, but each one would have a very sad story to share.

Then Shattered Dreams would surely make and appearance. And It's Their Fault would regale us with stories (excuses) about how things had failed in his life, and each story would be loudly applauded by Don't Blame Me and I Couldn't Help It.

Well, to make a long story short, I went to this depressing party knowing that there would be no real benefit in doing so. And, as usual, I became very depressed. But as I thought about all of the stories of failures brought back from the past, it occurred to me that all of this trip and subsequent "pity party" could be canceled by ME! I started to truly realize that I did not have to be there. I didn't have to be depressed. One thing kept going through my mind, I CAN'T CHANGE YESTERDAY, BUT I DO HAVE THE POWER TO MAKE TODAY A WONDERFUL DAY. I can be happy, joyous, fulfilled, encouraged, as well as encouraging. Knowing this, I left the City of Regret immediately and left no forwarding address. Am I sorry for mistakes I've made in the past? YES! But there is no physical way to undo them.

So, if you're planning a trip back to the City of Regret, please cancel all your reservations now. Instead, take a trip to a place called, Starting Again. I liked it so much that I have now taken up permanent residence there. My neighbors, the I Forgive Myselfs and the New Starts are so very helpful. By the way, you don't have to carry around heavy baggage, because the load is lifted from your shoulders upon arrival. God bless you in finding this great town. If you can find it -- it's in your own heart -- please look me up. I live on I Can Do It Street.


Saturday, March 10, 2012

Great Is Thy Faithfulness

Great Is Thy Faithfulness

Great is Thy faithfulness, O God my Father;
There is no shadow of turning with thee,
Thou changest not, Thy compassions they fail not,
As thou has been, thou forever will be.

Great is Thy faithfulness!
Great is Thy faithfulness!
Morning by morning new mercies I see
All I have needed Thy hand hath provided
Great is Thy faithfulness, Lord unto me!

Summer and winter and springtime and harvest,
Sun, moon, and stars in their courses above;
Join with all nature in manifold witness,
To thy great faithfulness, mercy, and love.


Pardon for sin and a peace that endureth,
Thine own great presence to cheer and to guide;
Strength for today, and bright hope for tomorrow
Blessings all mine, with ten thousand beside.

Sunday, February 19, 2012

Reparenting the Child Within - My Journey

I recently attended a workshop called RCW1 (Reparenting the Child Within) conducted by Reintegration for Care and Wholeness Foundation, Inc. by the recommendation of Pastor Clem Guillermo.  RCWFI was founded by Harriet H. Hormillosa, or Neh (short for Nene), an ex-nun and a graceful woman who hails from Silay City in Negros Occidental.  Kuya Clem and Neh both claimed they have been friends from way back, and I can feel the faith and trust of both in each other.  According to Neh, they were always referred to as the "odd couple" because one is a pastor and the other a nun.  The only difference is one is married and the other, single.

If you do not know Kuya Clem (as he is popularly called in his radio program "Heartline" on DZAS 702), he is a pastor and marriage counsellor.  Kuya Clem has helped me twice in the past through his on-air counselling, the first was when I was 21 and the second was when I was 24.  His advice helped me get back on the right track on both instances.

I had a counselling session with Kuya Clem in his office on February 1, 2012 (I am now 45).  I finally got to meet him in person through a friend who set my appointment with him.  As I have stated above, one of his recommendations was that I go through the therapy of reparenting my inner child. 

Weeks before the workshop (which was scheduled February 17 to 19), I was feeling apprehensive because I did not know what I was getting myself into, plus having the fear that after exerting all effort, everything would stay the way they've been or get worse, like something that happened to me in the past. A friend told me to go through it and find out if it's effective or not rather than spending my whole life wondering and having the what ifs, so I decided to enroll, though half-heartedly.

On the first day in the seminar room, I was made at ease because there is an agreement of confidentiality, and no one is to judge anyone.  That is a place where I can feel safe, and everyone can be relied on to support me in my process.  I knew right there and then that this was meant for me.

During the introduction, Neh gave 30 seconds for anyone who would want to back out from the program with a full refund.  During that 30 seconds, I thought that if I walked out of that room at that moment, I had no place to go because I was sure deep in my heart that this weekend was appointed for me.  I was at the right place at the right time.  God appointed this for me.  This is later confirmed because even my transportation was provided.  A participant with a car lives near my place which is en route from his house to the workshop site, which is not an easy access for me if I were commuting.  I am truly grateful to them and for them.

You may be curious about what happened in my workshop.

This is a quote from one of my posts, The Survivor, which I wrote on January 24, way before I knew of RCW's program.

"kung mayroong time machine ay pupuntahan ko ang sarili ko noong ako ay teenager pa at kakaibiganin ko siya.  Ipaparamdam ko sa kanya na naiintindihan ko siya.  At hindi ko siya huhusgahan.  At pwede niyang sabihin sa akin lahat ng gusto niyang sabihin.  Ipaaalam ko sa kanya na meron siyang pwedeng sandalan sa oras ng kanyang pangangailangan.  Meron siyang pwedeng kausap sa oras na kailangan niya ng kausap.  Bibigyan ko siya ng sense of belonging.  At tuturuan ko siyang mag-basketball.  At sasabihin ko sa kanya kung ano ang pwedeng kurso para sa kanya."

Every time I think about this, it gives me goosebumps, because this is exactly what happened to me, and more.   

I was able to connect with the infant me, the toddler me, the play age me, and the adolescent me.  I was able to assure them that I will take care of them.  They don't have to be afraid anymore.  They don't have to hurt anymore.  I understand them and what they are going through, and they can depend on me because I will be strong for them.  I told them that despite what happened to them, everything will be ok.  Everything will turn out fine.  I will give them the love and the care they need.  And that I love them and accept them as they are.

My eyes were opened, and I begin to understand.

I was able to endure my ordeal and stay sane as a battered son foremostly by the grace of God.  And I held on because of my loved ones, my siblings.  I used to say that I survived because I was strong.  But during the end of the last activities, I realized that I became strong because of my friends.  God has blessed me with friends who helped me be strong.  In my journey, friends have come and gone, and I meet new friends along the way.  Some may be for keeps and some may be just passing by, but each is a blessing and a gift from God.

Thursday, February 16, 2012

The Hidden Meaning of My Name

Gaya-gaya lang itong post na ito.  Ginaya ko yung post ni Mokong.  Madalian lang kasi kailangan ko nang umalis para sa isang event na kinatatakutan ko pero kailangan kong gawin.  Update ko kayo sa susunod kung ano iyon.

Laurence Lee

Your natural charisma and charm makes you an influential figure able to inspire confidence in others. Material abundance and emotional contentment are seemingly drawn to you and satisfy your dreams of success. However, being humanitarian, you find that applying your talents and creative prowess to a worthwhile purpose is far more satisfying than material gain. Your courage, adaptability, and determination overcome any obstacles. 


Laurel - crowned one"Latin"
Honest, dependable, and practical, you tend to have a fairly conservative but determined approach to life. Your intelligence and wisdom means that you are sought out for guidance and advice. Gifted in communication, you are philosophical and intuitive and are usually a traveller both mentally and physically. People respect you for your patience, discretion, and integrity. 


You are fair-minded, wise, and peace-loving and are always willing to help others. Your mental capabilities and creativity are well-marked with wonderful and original ideas which you need to bring to tangible fruition. Perceptive and understanding of others, your positive approach to life and influential nature means that you have leadership qualities. There is great potential for success both financially and spiritually. 


You are idealistic and intelligent and very much an all-or-nothing person. Tending to experience constant change in life security is found in your real and abiding values. With great organizational ability, industry and creative prowess, you love to build tangible results and are especially gifted at transforming lost causes. Your intelligence is marked with keen perception and analytical ability. A secure home life and relationship are important for you.

You can find your name's hidden meanings here.

Thursday, February 9, 2012

Valentine's Day - What's the Big Deal?

Nalalapit na ang Araw ng mga Puso.  Nagpaplano na ang karamihan, lalung-lalo na yung mga may partner, boyfriend, girlfriend, o lover kahit pa ano ang kani-kanilang sexual orientation.  Karamihan naman sa mga walang partner ay nai-stress, nagse-self-pity, o nagbi-bitter-bitteran, dahil lalo lamang nila nararamdamang sila ay nag-iisa at walang nagmamahal sa kanila.  Malalamig ang Valentine's kumbaga.

Tama, masarap mag-celebrate ng Valentine's Day kung ikaw ay may partner.  Kung ikaw ay may minamahal at may nagmamahal din sa iyo.  Masarap magplano, mag-ipon ng panggastos sa date, mag-isip ng kung anong ireregalo sa minamahal sa araw na ito.  Masarap din mag-expect o umasa kung ano ang matatanggap mula sa kanya.

Pero para sa isang single na katulad ko, what's the big deal if I don't have a partner?  Kailangan ko ba'ng ma-stress dahil wala akong date pagsapit ng February 14?  Hindi porke't ang Valentine's Day ay Araw ng mga Puso ay kailangan nang ma-despair ng isang solterong tulad ko.  Kapag sumasapit ang Valentine's Day at nakikita ko ang mga magsing-irog na masasaya ay masaya rin ako para sa kanila.  Pero hindi ibig sabihin noon na malungkot ako para sa sarili ko.  Bagkus ay lalo lamang akong natutuwa dahil hindi ako malungkot kahit wala akong partner.  Kung gusto kong i-celebrate ang araw na ito ay pwede kong i-celebrate kasama ang mga mahal ko sa buhay.  O kaya ay i-celebrate ko'ng mag-isa dahil mahal ko ang sarili ko.

Kapag nakikita ko ang mga mag-sweetheart na nagde-date o nagpapalitan ng regalo sa Valentine's Day, at hindi ako naiinggit o nalulungkot, lalo ko lang nare-reinforce sa sarili ko na ok ako, dahil lalo akong naniniwala na hindi ko kailangan ng partner para maramdaman kong kumpleto ako kapag Valentine's Day o kahit pa anong araw ng taon.  My happiness does not depend on someone else.  Happiness is a choice.  And I choose to be happy.

Tuesday, January 24, 2012

The Survivor

Nung teenager pa lang ako, madalas ko maramdaman na hindi ako naiintindihan ng mga magulang ko, especially ni Mama, since ang father ko ay absentee father kahit na nandiyan lang siya.  Mas madalas, yung feeling na ganito ay nasusundan ng feeling na ikaw ay hinuhusgahan dahil nga hindi ka naiintindihan sa iyong mga ikinikilos.

Kaya sinabi ko sa sarili ko noon, pagdating ko sa ganoong edad o sa adulthood, pilit kong iintindihin yung next generation.  Kung bakit sila ganoon kumilos, kung bakit ganoon ang kanilang mga pananamit, kung bakit nila gusto ang mga gusto nila, at hindi ko sila huhusgahan dahil lamang iba ang kanilang gusto sa gusto ko noong ako ay teenager pa.

Dahil sa aking palagay, ang mga teenagers noong kapanahunan ng magulang ko, at nung kapanahunan ko, at mga teenagers ngayon, ay pare-pareho lang ng pinagdadaanan.  Magkakaiba nga lang ang kanilang mga generations. Masasabi kong taglay ko ang pang-unawa sa mga kabataan ngayon, dahil ang mga nakikilala kong teenagers ay palagay ang loob sa akin, at meron silang feeling of belonging pag kasama nila ako.

Halimbawa ay sa mga pamangkin ko.  Although adult akong tingnan, pag nagkasama kami, ang impression nila sa akin ay isang cool Tito.  They can express themselves when they are with me.

Naiinggit ako minsan sa kanila, kasi naipaparamdam ko sa kanila ngayon yung hindi ko naramdaman noong ako ay bata pa.

Ngayon ko lang naisip, kung mayroong time machine ay pupuntahan ko ang sarili ko noong ako ay teenager pa at kakaibiganin ko siya.  Ipaparamdam ko sa kanya na naiintindihan ko siya.  At hindi ko siya huhusgahan.  At pwede niyang sabihin sa akin lahat ng gusto niyang sabihin.  Ipaaalam ko sa kanya na meron siyang pwedeng sandalan sa oras ng kanyang pangangailangan.  Meron siyang pwedeng kausap sa oras na kailangan niya ng kausap.  Bibigyan ko siya ng sense of belonging.  At tuturuan ko siyang mag-basketball.  At sasabihin ko sa kanya kung ano ang pwedeng kurso para sa kanya.

Pero walang time machine.  Ang teenager na ako ay naging ngayong ako.  Siguro, kung hindi ko pinagdaanan yung mga pinagdaanan ko nung teenager ako ay baka hindi ako kasing understanding sa mga kabataan ngayon.  Mahirap man ang tinahak kong landas noon, masasabi ko na isa akong blessing para sa kasalukuyang generation.  Because I never gave up.  Because I survived.

(Umeepilog pa)

Di na ako pwedeng bumalik sa nakaraan.  Di ko na pwedeng baguhin ang itinakbo ng buhay ko.  Ang pwede ko na lang gawin ay make peace with my past, and with myself.  Tanggapin kung ano ako ngayon and make the best of it.

Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, 
but anyone can start today and make a new ending.

Monday, January 23, 2012

Fortune Cookies

After work this evening, I dropped by Shopwise Sucat to buy prepaid load for my broadband before going home.  Pagpasok ko ng entrance ng Shopwise, there a was a girl handing out fortune cookies and she gave me one.  Paglabas ko naman, sinadya kong humingi ng isa pa.

I am fascinated by fortune cookies.  Kasi napapanood ko ito sa movies where the characters will break the cookie and read what is written on the strip of paper that is inside the cookie.  E, hindi ko pa naranasan mag-break ng fortune cookie.  And curious ako kung ano ang sinasabi ng kapirasong papel.

So, pagdating ko sa bahay, kahit ihing-ihi na ako eh, binuksan ko kaagad yung balot ng fortune cookies, nginata yung cookies habang binabasa kung ano ang nakasulat doon.  Sa isang side ng papel nakasulat yung fortune, at sa likod naman nito ay may naka-print na 6 numbers.  Ano'ng gagawin ko sa numbers?  Itataya ko ba sa lotto?

Ito ang laman ng unang fortune cookie:

What you seek, you will find.
Keep focused on God and you'll clearly
see what He wants you to do.

Eto naman yung second:

Embrace change as a way of life
and adapt to these in order to succeed in life.

Ganda, diba?  

O siya. iihi muna ako.

Saturday, January 21, 2012

Iiyak Ka Ba Pag Namatay Ako?

Isa sa pinakamalapit kong kaibigan ay si Vincent.  Ang tawag ko sa kanya hanggang ngayon ay Binsin, o Sin.  Magpinsan kami na hindi.  Kaya kami naging magpinsan, dahil ang tatay niya at tatay ko ay magpinsang-buo na hindi rin.  Kung paano kami hindi magpinsan ay dahil adopted ang lolo niya, na panganay sa mga lolo namin.  Nakatira kami noon sa iisang compound na kung saan ang mga nakatira ay puro magkakamag-anak.  Yung bahay nila ang una, ang sa amin ang pang-apat.  Hindi ko alam kung paano kami naging mag-close sa lahat ng magpipinsan.  Basta na lang nangyari.  Ngayon ay pamilyado na si Binsin.

Noong mga 15 o 16 pa lang kami, palagi siyang naiiwang mag-isa sa bahay.  Isang araw ay tumawag siya sa akin sa telepono at sinabi niyang napakataas ng lagnat niya, at natatakot siya dahil parang mamamatay na raw siya.  Pinuntahan ko siya at napakataas nga ng lagnat niya.  Binigyan ko siya ng gamot noon, pinunasan, at sinamahan ko, dahil takot nga daw siyang mamatay.

Nang medyo napayapa na siya at nawala na ang takot niya, bigla akong tinanong.

"Iiyak ka ba pag namatay ako?"

"Siyempre.  E, ako ba pag namatay ako, iiyak ka?" tanong ko rin.

"Ewan ko."

"Bakit ewan mo?"

"E, hindi pa naman nangyayari, e.  Malalaman ko lang pag nangyari na."

Friday, January 20, 2012

Best Friend

Sino ba ang nag-imbento ng talatang "best friend?"  Kung sa Tagalog ay "matalik na kaibigan."  Sigurado ako, sa pagbasa mo ng mga talatang iyan ay sumagi sa isip mo ang mga taong itinuturing mong mga best friends mo.  Bakit mo sila best friends?  Dahil lagi mong kasama sa gimik?  Dahil kaututang dila mo?  Dahil nauutangan mo?  Dahil kalaro mo sa Dota?  Dahil kakopyahan mo?

Noong kabataan ko, ginagamit ko pa ang salitang "best friend."  Pero habang lumilipas ang panahon, naglalaho na rin ang paggamit ko ng mga salitang iyon, siguro ay dahil kapag ginamit ko iyon ay parang inilalagay ko sa kahon ang relasyon namin ng mga pinakamalapit kong kaibigan.  Na dapat ay ganito at dapat ay ganoon at kung hindi ganito at hindi ganoon ay hindi ko na siya "best friend."

Hindi ko tinatawag ng "best friend" ang mga best friends ko.  Yung mga hindi ko ka-close, ang tawag ko ay kakilala o kasama sa school, kasama sa work, kasama sa gimik, etc.

Ang tawag ko sa best friends ko ay kaibigan.

Kaibigan, dahil may laya siya.  At ako.

Malaya akong magsalita kapag siya ang kausap ko.  Pwede kong sabihin ang lahat ng gusto kong sabihin.  Nasasabi ko ang aking mga insecurities.  Nasasabi ko ang aking fears.  Nasasabi ko ang aking mga galit.  At hindi ako huhusgahan.  Ang sasabihin niya lang ay, "Gago ka talaga," at iyon ay hindi para laitin o maliitin ako, kundi para sabihing "kahit na ganyan ka, kaibigan pa rin kita."

Malaya akong magbago.  Ng pananaw, ng ugali, ng estado sa buhay, ng mga panuntunin at mga prinsipiyo.
Malaya akong isiwalat ang tunay kong pagkatao.  Malaya akong maging mabuti o masama.  May laya akong mawala ng magpakita ulit.

Maraming kakilala ang dumaan sa buhay ko, pero sino ang mga itinuturing kong mga kaibigan?  Sila yung kahit na matagal na panahon kaming hindi magkita, at nung magkita kami ay nagbago na siya, at nagbago na ako, at hindi na kami yung unang nakilala ng isa't isa, pero nandoon pa rin ang pagtanggap at pagrespeto at ang pakiramdam na kahit na naging sino o ano ka pa, ikaw pa rin ang kaibigan ko.

Wednesday, January 18, 2012

Kung Bakit "Soltero" ang Title Ko

"Soltero" is a Spanish word meaning single; bachelor; an unmarried man.  Sa Tagalog, binata.

Dito sa ating bansa, kung ikaw ay isang middle-aged man or woman and you're still single, siguradong narinig mo na ang tanong na ito: 

Bakit 'di ka pa nag-aasawa?  
Sino ang mag-aalaga sa iyo pagtanda mo?

Maraming beses ko nang narinig at sinagot ang mga tanong na iyan. 

Saan ba nakasulat na pagdating mo ng certain age ay kailangan mo'ng mag-asawa?  At kung mag-aasawa ka at mag-aanak para lang may mag-alaga sa iyo sa pagtanda mo, kawawa naman sila.  Mas mabuti pang kumuha ka na lang ng caregiver.  Hindi porke't ganito ang aking edad at single ako ay may mali sa akin.

Some people think single people have miserable and lonely lives because that is how they see their lives if they do not marry.  But that is not true to all persons.  Some can be mature and single and still be content and happy.  Di ba, marami nga ang married, pero miserable naman ang buhay nila?

Lagi kong sinasabi, kung ikaw ay single at nagkaka-idad na, at hindi ka mapakali o di ka mapayapa dahil takot kang tumandang mag-isa o baka mapag-iwanan ka, mag-asawa ka.  I have nothing against marriage.  In fact, I am pro-marriage.  Pero kung ikaw ay single at content ka naman, huwag kang padadala sa pressure galing sa iba na mag-asawa ka kung mali rin lang ang mga rason mo sa pag-aasawa.

Maraming dahilan kung bakit ang isang tao ay nagkaidad na single pa rin.  Pero hindi ibig sabihin na lahat ay malungkot, miserable, o bugnutin.  Meron ding masaya, kuntento, at may kapayapaan.

Katulad mo rin sila.  Maraming pinagdaanan.  Maraming kwento.  Marunong tumawa.  Marunong umiyak.  Marunong magmahal.  Marunong magalit.  Marunong matuwa.  Marunong malungkot.  Marunong mabuhay.  Normal.

Ako po ay isang soltero.  Ito po ang aking kwento.